Why do we choose to put ourselves though its emotional wringer? Some of our most respected philosophers have put forward some intriguing theories. Here they are:
Plato: “Love makes us whole, again”
Plato explored the idea that we love in order to become complete. n his Symposium, he wrote about a dinner party at which Aristophanes, a comic playwright, regales the guests with the following story. Humans were once creatures with four arms, four legs, and two faces. One day they angered the gods, and Zeus sliced them all in two. Since then, every person has been missing half of him or herself.
-makes no sense.
Schopenhauer : “Love tricks us into having babies”
Arthur Schopenhauer maintained that love, based in sexual desire, was a “voluptuous illusion”. He suggested that we love because our desires lead us to believe that another person will make us happy, but we are sorely mistaken. Nature is tricking us into procreating and the loving fusion we seek is consummated in our children. When our sexual desires are satisfied, we are thrown back into our tormented existences.
-sounds so true.
Russell: “Love is escape from our loneliness”
According to Bertrand Russell, we love in order to quench our physical and psychological desires. Without the ecstasy of passionate love, sex is unsatisfying. Love’s delight, intimacy, and warmth helps us overcome our fear of the world, escape our lonely shells, and engage more abundantly in life. Love enriches our whole being, making it the best thing in life.
-you should have won Nobel prize for being a foolish romantic.
Buddha: “Love is a misleading affliction”
Buddha proposed that we love because we are trying to satisfy our base desires. Yet, our passionate cravings are defects, and attachments — even romantic love — are a great source of suffering.
-long live yoga
Beauvoir : “Love lets us reach beyond ourselves”
Simone de Beauvoir proposed that love is the desire to integrate with another and that it infuses our lives with meaning. She saw that the problem with traditional romantic love is it can be so captivating that we are tempted to make it our only reason for being. Yet, dependence on another to justify our existence easily leads to boredom and power games. To avoid this trap, Beauvoir advised loving authentically, which is more like a great friendship: lovers support each other in discovering themselves, reaching beyond themselves, and enriching their lives and the world, together.
you go girl!