Don’t say “sorry” too much

This article is not for the ones who rarely apologize. It is for the people who say sorry for every little thing.

Canadian sociologist Maja Jovanovic believes the “sorry”s we sprinkle through our days hurt us. They make us appear smaller and more timid than we really are, and they can undercut our confidence. Her example is outstanding: Her research assistant said ‘Sorry’ to the pizza delivery guy for his being late to her house by saying ” we live in a new subdevelopment. I’m so sorry. ”

We can eliminate the “sorry”s from our sentences — and still be considerate. “The next time you bump into someone,” Jovanovic says, “you could say, ‘Go ahead,’ ‘After you’ or ‘Pardon me.’ There’s also a Google Chrome plug-in called ‘just not sorry’ that will alert you to all the needless apologies.

And, in some of the instances when we’d typically throw in a “sorry,” we could just use the two magic words: “thank you.” When you’re with a friend and you realize you’ve been doing all the talking. Jovanovic says, “instead of saying, ‘Sorry for complaining’ or ‘Sorry for venting,’ you could just say, ‘Thank you for listening,’ ‘Thank you for being there’ or ‘Thank you for being my friend.’”

Another article says apologizing all the time could be a sign of anxiety.

The last and the least, although apologizing serves an important social function, over-apologizing is harmful.

Here’s the TED talk of the sociologist:

 

 

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