Encountered this article which basically questioning the concept of “soul mate” by analyzing the latest TV series and movies.
It begins with the La La Land’s ending in which its stars don’t end up together. We probably had some feelings regarding the end. After decades of rom-coms pushing the idea that our love lives are controlled by destiny, that a singular person completes us, it seems we’re in the throes of a soul mate backlash. And that makes sense, when you consider our rising cultural fatigue with dating apps, and dating in general. And now we get to the point where the notion of soul mates became a joke.
Unlike what Hollywood shows us, the search of the soul mate itself can be deeply misguided. “People are looking for someone who is impossibly perfect,” Klinenberg told.
Now, finally, romantic comedies are starting to portray this ambivalence. As La La Land’s director, Damien Chazelle, recently said of his decision to keep Mia (Emma Stone) and Sebastian (Ryan Gosling) apart, “It was kind of an acknowledgment that life doesn’t always completely live up to the perfect version that we have in our heads, but that’s okay.”
Basically, in what may be the most non-Hollywood message about love ever: You don’t just “find” your soul mate in one cinematic moment and call it a day — you become soul mates. Joining souls with another human is a process. “You’re looking for two whole people to come together,” says Crazy Ex-Girlfriend’s McKenna. “And I think what we know is that it’s best if you’ve fully figured out your own destiny before you join it with somebody else’s.” Labor of Love’s Weigel agrees, suggesting “soul mate” should be a verb as well as a noun — kind of like love itself.