30s are the decade when friends disappear?

I don’t think so.

But this article insists on this. An almost 30-year-old married woman tells the story of herself not making any friends.

Here are the reasons:
– After some specific age (don’t know which one) it’s so difficult to make friends because basically it’s like dating.
– Relocation
– Idolizing your childhood friends,
– Not creating any time for your new friends.

There are some notes I would like to mention. For instance, it says, making new friends is like dating. You want her number, you invite her someplace, evaluate her hoping she likes you back… etc. This is exactly like the dating anxiety.

We still tend to idolize our childhood and early adulthood buddies. Besides knowing us longer, they’re associated with special moments in our lives.

Relocation also eliminates. Unfortunately, when you move to another city, you probably lose some friend.

NEW RESEARCH RECENTLY FOUND THAT STARTING AT AGE 25, WE LOSE MORE FRIENDS THAN WE MAKE EACH YEAR

What to do about it?

First of all, say shut up to the insecure inner voice, and hello to strangers. Introduce yourself more, text more, invite more and go to more events.

Here’s my personal advice. Do not compare your new friends with the older ones. Keep the older ones in a different place and accept the new friends as they are. Love them. If they don’t love you back, you can easily understand that and that’s okay. Give a chance, it’s free. Don’t think too much. Go some places to them. You probably feel nervous when you first go out with a newcomer but give some time. You’ll see they will amaze you.

Have fun.

 

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