Nagging mamas raise successful daughters

The researchers at the University of Essex found that girls whose “main parent”–that’s usually the mother–consistently displayed high parental expectations were far less likely to fall into the traps that made the girls less likely to succeed in life. Specifically, these girls were: Less likely to become pregnant as teenagers. More likely to attend college. Less likely to get stuck in dead-end, low-wage jobs. Less likely to have prolonged periods of unemployment. The researchers, led by PhD candidate Ericka G. Rascon-Ramirez, studied the experiences of more than 15,000 British girls aged 13 and 14 over a 10-year period. No matter how hard … Okumaya devam et Nagging mamas raise successful daughters

3 step method for creating new habits

According to B.J. Fogg, a psychologist and researcher at Stanford University to create a real lifelong habit, the focus should be on training your brain to succeed at a small adjustments, then gaining confidence from that success. He developed the Fogg Method, which references several psychological theories and is comprised of three key steps. 1- The first is about identifying your specific desired outcome: Do you want to feel less stressed at work? Lose 10% of your bodyweight? 2- Next, identify the easy-win behaviors—he calls them “tiny habits”—that will put you on the path to that goal. Maybe you’d find short walks more meditative … Okumaya devam et 3 step method for creating new habits

A simple way to find more happiness at work

A study from the Mayo Clinic found that physicians who spend about 20 percent of their time doing “work they find most meaningful are at dramatically lower risk for burnout.” But here’s what’s fascinating: Anything beyond that 20 percent has a marginal impact, as “spending 50 percent of your time in the most meaningful area is associated with similar rates of burnout as 20 percent.” In other words: You don’t need to change everything about your job to see substantial benefits. A few changes here and there can be all you need. “When you look at people who are thriving in their … Okumaya devam et A simple way to find more happiness at work

The 36 questions that lead to love

I read an article many years ago and since then I couldn’t get this article out of my mind.  The article was about a a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one. The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the study’s authors, “One key pattern associated with the development of a … Okumaya devam et The 36 questions that lead to love

We’re giving our kids bad advice

Most parents want their kids to be successful in life—and so we teach them attitudes that we believe will help them achieve their goals. But many widely-held theories about what it takes to be successful are proving to be counterproductive. Here are a few of the most damaging things many of us are currently teaching our children about success, and what to teach them instead, from Science Director of Stanford University.   What we tell our kids: Focus on the future. Keep your eyes on the prize.  What we should be telling them: Live (or work) in the moment. It’s hard … Okumaya devam et We’re giving our kids bad advice

The biggest secret to success and happiness

In a rare kind of ongoing research, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has managed to track the lives of 724 men for 79 years. The men were divided into two classes. The first group were sophomores at Harvard College while the second was a group of boys from Boston’s poorest neighborhoods. They were investigated from the time they were teenagers all the way into old age to determine what keeps men healthy and happy. Year after year (since 1938), researchers asked about their work, their lives, their health, without knowing how their stories were going to pan out. It turns out that flourishing … Okumaya devam et The biggest secret to success and happiness

Woman’s brain when she becomes a mother

“Becoming a mother is like discovering the existence of a strange new room in the house where you already live” Sarah Walker. The author of this article believes that this description is valuable because it’s more precise than the shorthand most people use for life with a newborn: Everything changes. A lot of things do change, of course, but for new mothers, some of the starkest differences are also the most intimate ones—the emotional changes. Which, it turns out, are also largely neurological. Mapping the maternal brain is also, many scientists believe, the key to understanding why so many new mothers experience … Okumaya devam et Woman’s brain when she becomes a mother